Addiction and behavorial health issues are commonly referred to as "the family disease". It can impact virtually everyone in the family, and create entirely new family dynamics. Fear, frustration, anger, emotional distance, and "walking on eggshells" become the ways families interact.
Families and friends often have tried many different approaches to help their loved one, from love and compassion, to outright anger and "nagging", or to pleading with them to "see the light". Frustration and distance are almost always the result. One of the main issues is that the "addict" is acutely aware of each person's individual vulnerabilities, and knows how to get you, and others, "off their back". It is the nature of the addictive process to deny there is a problem.
In virtually all cases, the "person of concern" knows they are struggling with addiction, but the "addict" becomes the primary interactive personality. Most families have developed their own ways of coping with the unmanageability within the family, and to interact with each other in ways that actually may make the problems worse. Remember, the addict did not wake up one day and decide to become an addict. It happened through time, and they got "pulled" into their disease. The same is true for family members. Just because other approaches have not achieved the desired results doesn't mean that things can't get better. Life can be full of twists and turns, and feel very unmanageable on occasion, but there are reliable ways to turn in the direction of positive change.
Inaction, which can feel comfortable, may only make decision making harder. It only takes a phone call to begin the process. We will help you through the fear, frustration, confusion, and anger. Things can, and will, get better.